Hey, y'all! I got an odd request in the mail this weekend. It was a request for monetary assistance from a friend of a friend. She's buying a house and she came up around $2,000 short. So she's asking people that she knows to pitch in and help her out. I guess all in all it's not an odd request, it's just I don't know her all that well.
She called me at work on Friday. I had no idea she had my work number. I can't remember giving it to her. But I hadn't heard from her in the seven months since I left the City. Not a word beyond the occasional, dumb ass forwarded e-mail. She asked me for my address. I asked her "Aw, what's up? You gettin' hitched?" She said "Somethin' like that." So I gave her my address.
I can imagine it's sort of hard to hit someone up on the phone for a loan (or a gift), but it was strange that she could call me for the address and not tell me a little of her plight. But like I said, she's a friend of a friend.
So I got this mail from her and I thought it would be an invite to a wedding or something and it was this "gift" request. I honestly don't know how to proceed. Should I give? If I give, what wouldn't make my ass look cheap? I mean, I don't know her like that.
Here's where you (yes, you!) come in. Usually I read the comments and blow off every piece of advice I don't like, but I'll really take yours into consideration this time. I promise. I don't have a clue how to proceed. I'm looking forward to your input.
She called me at work on Friday. I had no idea she had my work number. I can't remember giving it to her. But I hadn't heard from her in the seven months since I left the City. Not a word beyond the occasional, dumb ass forwarded e-mail. She asked me for my address. I asked her "Aw, what's up? You gettin' hitched?" She said "Somethin' like that." So I gave her my address.
I can imagine it's sort of hard to hit someone up on the phone for a loan (or a gift), but it was strange that she could call me for the address and not tell me a little of her plight. But like I said, she's a friend of a friend.
So I got this mail from her and I thought it would be an invite to a wedding or something and it was this "gift" request. I honestly don't know how to proceed. Should I give? If I give, what wouldn't make my ass look cheap? I mean, I don't know her like that.
Here's where you (yes, you!) come in. Usually I read the comments and blow off every piece of advice I don't like, but I'll really take yours into consideration this time. I promise. I don't have a clue how to proceed. I'm looking forward to your input.
Regards,
KZ
16 comments:
Two things:
She's not a close friend = Don't give her the money.
If the tables were turned, would she (remember she's a friend of a friend) give you money?
Follow IBWs advice and get her homewarming gift, but ONLY after she sends you an invitation to a housewarming party.
My 2 cents:
1) Can you afford to give her anything? Do you want to give her anything?
What would I do? I wouldn't give her a dime but I'd show up at her housewarming with a big bottle of Grey Gouse and some tonic.
It's so easy to ask for a handout - she needs to get a little more creative.
OK, OK, I can't take it anymore. The guilt is too much. In the spirit of full disclosure, I must add one piece of information. I may have, on one occassion, while intoxicated, placed my penis in her vagina, repeatedly until mutual orgasms were reached. This only happened once. Does this change your opinion?
KZ
my opinion before the disclosure about the sex:
only forward money if you're really aiight with it, cuz if not, you'll grow to resent the gesture.
my opinion after the disclosure about the sex:
same thing.
if you know her either personally or through a friend, then you know if she's responsible enough to put the money to its intended use. folk need help every now and again. sometimes they ask for more than what we can give. however, if we can give it and the only thing standing in our way of being generous is the fact that they're not related to us, what does that say about us?
but again, it all comes down to how YOU feel about giving her money. if it has to be done begrudgedly, don't do it at all.
SO...in a sense...she's asking you to pay up since she fucked... and in a sense...your debating if the ass was good enough for you to feel obligated to "pay for it"....You are too much Zed...
...but while your making out that check...deposit some of that in my acount and I'll have to owe you the pussy at a later date LOL
.....Washington Mutual account # 1884XXXXXX
LMAO
Oh you're a sucka... send her sumptin.... how dare you mislead us, probably mislead her too...
if you got it to give, then GIVE IT. You probably owe her anywayz, especially if you were a bad lay... just j/k.... lol
ZED, I LMAO!!!! Why didn't you reveal this little bout of intimacy before!!!!
I was already leaning towards giving her "something" if you could afford it, but now I say "hell yeah" you should help her out. I'm not saying break the bank, but every little bit counts.
Many of us would make a donation to a total stranger. Why not help out some one that you know?
Fuck that. That's bold! Some people stretch the very boundaries of their associations with people.
Unless you and I have actually gone together - I don't give brawds money. Not even if they've swallowed. ;o)
Okay!!! I do not care that you sleeped with the chick. No do not give her shit... If you do not feel like it. Just because you fucked do not mean you owe her a dime. If you feel $100.00 is good enough to donate to her moving into a house fund then give her that. But as I recall reading your past blogs you do not have furniture and your truck always needs some type of repair. So who is going to help you when you come up short??? If you still do not have your place furnished. Take the 2 grand and buy some. Forget her.... She needs a man not a fly by night friend.... Peace
Just checking in to see your decision, then I come across your comment...I KNEW IT!! You boinked (During my unwanted hiatus from sex, I'm using my extra energy to find creative words for the act)her!!
I can't even make any other comments because I'm laughing so hard....Your comment was hilarious!!!!!
Oh Zed...you crass, stingy, yet delightful and hilarious mutha fucka! How I love thee.....
uhhhh, don't give her shit.
Who don't you "boink"?
@All y'all
Everybody here has a valid point. Especially "Anonymous", you crazy low-key kid. I'm going out of town this weekend. I have a predetermined amount I'm willing to spend. If I come in under that, I'll give her the remainder (if it's not TOO much). Otherwise, I'll be good not giving her anything.
KZ
I can not believe this discussion. Does this woman not have any pride? That is a definite 'hell to the NAW!'. Fuck that b*tch. Oh shit, you already did. LOL!
LMMFAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!
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